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Monday, June 16, 2008
WHAT YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE
A lot of our members are always asking what the should know about someone before they meet offline. So we have prepared a top ten list to help you all out.
1) The person’s real name
2) Whether the person lives on his/her own or with others or even still lives with mum and dad
3) Something about the person’s “roots” to get a sense of where they came from
4) How the person makes a living
5) The person’s personal values
6) What the person does for fun – his/her leisure preferences and energy level
7) The degree to which the person uses any legal or illicit substances
8) What the person is currently seeking in a relationship (causal, serious or up for grabs)
9) The person’s criminal history, if any
10) Whether the person has any children and how many
1) The person’s real name
2) Whether the person lives on his/her own or with others or even still lives with mum and dad
3) Something about the person’s “roots” to get a sense of where they came from
4) How the person makes a living
5) The person’s personal values
6) What the person does for fun – his/her leisure preferences and energy level
7) The degree to which the person uses any legal or illicit substances
8) What the person is currently seeking in a relationship (causal, serious or up for grabs)
9) The person’s criminal history, if any
10) Whether the person has any children and how many
Labels: dating, do's and don'ts, online dating, potential date, safety, tips, trying online dating
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Online Dating Great Icebeaking emails
It's not always easy figuring out how to break the ice in the first e-mail you send to someone who's caught your eye online. So we asked online dating users for some great ways to break the ice online and this was the response.
* If our moms were setting us up on a blind date, what three things would your mom tell mine about you?
*if you could have a conversation with three people, living or dead, who would they be and why?
*Favorite movie of all time?
*Last concert you saw?
* What's your favorite beach in the world?
*Who was your favorite public figure, be in inside or outside of politics.
* What's the next country you want to visit?
* What one thing are you craving today?
*If you change one law perminantly what law would it be?
* What music is in your car or home stereo right now?
* What are three of your guilty pleasures?
* What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?
* What is must-see TV for you?
* If you met the right person, how many children would you have?
* If our moms were setting us up on a blind date, what three things would your mom tell mine about you?
*if you could have a conversation with three people, living or dead, who would they be and why?
*Favorite movie of all time?
*Last concert you saw?
* What's your favorite beach in the world?
*Who was your favorite public figure, be in inside or outside of politics.
* What's the next country you want to visit?
* What one thing are you craving today?
*If you change one law perminantly what law would it be?
* What music is in your car or home stereo right now?
* What are three of your guilty pleasures?
* What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?
* What is must-see TV for you?
* If you met the right person, how many children would you have?
Labels: email, ice breaker, icebreaking emails, online dating, tips, writing
Monday, April 07, 2008
Better ONline Dating Communication
If your looking to find true love online, there are numerous aspects of online dating you need to know and understand first. Below are a few things to know before you delve into online dating:
Tips For Building Your Online Dating Profile
Tip #1
Improve Your Matches by Being Clear About what your looking for
The first step in increasing others interests in you is to be clear about what you are looking for and write that into your profile.
Be clear in your profile about what you are looking for in order to weed out others. If you only want to date local men who are within 3 years of your age then you should clearly state:
I'm interested only in communicating with 22-28 year old men who live within 20 miles of Phoenix, Arizona."
Tip #2:
Use the Subject Header as a Filter
If you cant think of anything to say in your profile header then use it as a filter like:
interested only in 22-28 year old men
Tip #3:
State What Action You Want Interested People to Take
There are so many options to take when contacting a member of the opposite sex online eg. kisses ,IM ,emails etc. So be specific about the type of action you will respond to. like..
"If you're interested in communicating, send me a kiss and I'll send an email your way."
When Communicating Via Email or Chat
Tip #4:
Be Respectful
It's amazing what people will say to each other when they feel protected from harm behind a computer screen.
When you're communicating with someone via email or chat keep in mind that there is a real person on the other end with real feelings. Be respectful with the words you use.
In addition, if you are no longer interested in communicating with the person, don't just "fall off the face of the earth". Send them a short and respectful note that you are pursuing some other matches and wish them the best of luck. It is the respectable thing to do.
Tip #5:
For Conversation Ideas, Closely Reread the Person's Profile
One of the keys to good communication is talking about something that interests the other person. You can get amazing clues to their interests by carefully rereading every aspect of that person's profile and by closely analyzing the background of any pictures they have posted.
For example, if someone says in their profile "I love to travel" then that is your cue to ask questions like "what's the most fascinating place you've ever traveled to?"
By showing an interest in the other person's interests you are improving the communication that the two of you share
Tips For Building Your Online Dating Profile
Tip #1
Improve Your Matches by Being Clear About what your looking for
The first step in increasing others interests in you is to be clear about what you are looking for and write that into your profile.
Be clear in your profile about what you are looking for in order to weed out others. If you only want to date local men who are within 3 years of your age then you should clearly state:
I'm interested only in communicating with 22-28 year old men who live within 20 miles of Phoenix, Arizona."
Tip #2:
Use the Subject Header as a Filter
If you cant think of anything to say in your profile header then use it as a filter like:
interested only in 22-28 year old men
Tip #3:
State What Action You Want Interested People to Take
There are so many options to take when contacting a member of the opposite sex online eg. kisses ,IM ,emails etc. So be specific about the type of action you will respond to. like..
"If you're interested in communicating, send me a kiss and I'll send an email your way."
When Communicating Via Email or Chat
Tip #4:
Be Respectful
It's amazing what people will say to each other when they feel protected from harm behind a computer screen.
When you're communicating with someone via email or chat keep in mind that there is a real person on the other end with real feelings. Be respectful with the words you use.
In addition, if you are no longer interested in communicating with the person, don't just "fall off the face of the earth". Send them a short and respectful note that you are pursuing some other matches and wish them the best of luck. It is the respectable thing to do.
Tip #5:
For Conversation Ideas, Closely Reread the Person's Profile
One of the keys to good communication is talking about something that interests the other person. You can get amazing clues to their interests by carefully rereading every aspect of that person's profile and by closely analyzing the background of any pictures they have posted.
For example, if someone says in their profile "I love to travel" then that is your cue to ask questions like "what's the most fascinating place you've ever traveled to?"
By showing an interest in the other person's interests you are improving the communication that the two of you share
Labels: do's and don'ts, online, online dating, s, trying online dating
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Dating sites VS social networking
Ok so we all recognize and understand the importance of social networking sites like myspace and youtube but are they taking the dating sites on or merely creating more confusion for online dating participants.
We asked Rod Davies and Expert in online dating trends what his thoughts were. " I have been on myspace for a few years now and studied other users activities closely. Its funny but I honestly believe the ratio of business users on myspace by far outnumbers any profile that even looks like its real.
The evidence is clear for all to see. myspace is constantly re-engineering their entire platform to keep spammers and FAKE USERS from stealing traffic?
When I first joined myspace you could actually send thousands of friends request without having to fill in a security code. Now they only let you send 10.
You also used to be able to send unlimited comments to friends without having to fill in those silly security codes.
And now every time you hit a link on someone’s profile you are re-directed to a myspace page warning you about people (phishing your profile).
So naturally when I see all these items changing in the world of social networking, I can’t help but think of the type of people that need to be controlled to this extent.
Personally, I think a lot of social networking sites are full of time wasters just wanting to plug their own business. And that’s fine if your into that kind of thing. But when your actually looking for real life people that actually want to meet new friends and socialize Dating sites are around 90% more successful."
Ticket4one is gaining pace with the trends of dating sites and social networking all rolled into one. WHY? Because Ticket4one.com's profile approval process is 100% human edited. Weeding out those fake profiles.
Feel free to leave your comment and let us know your thoughts on the subject
We asked Rod Davies and Expert in online dating trends what his thoughts were. " I have been on myspace for a few years now and studied other users activities closely. Its funny but I honestly believe the ratio of business users on myspace by far outnumbers any profile that even looks like its real.
The evidence is clear for all to see. myspace is constantly re-engineering their entire platform to keep spammers and FAKE USERS from stealing traffic?
When I first joined myspace you could actually send thousands of friends request without having to fill in a security code. Now they only let you send 10.
You also used to be able to send unlimited comments to friends without having to fill in those silly security codes.
And now every time you hit a link on someone’s profile you are re-directed to a myspace page warning you about people (phishing your profile).
So naturally when I see all these items changing in the world of social networking, I can’t help but think of the type of people that need to be controlled to this extent.
Personally, I think a lot of social networking sites are full of time wasters just wanting to plug their own business. And that’s fine if your into that kind of thing. But when your actually looking for real life people that actually want to meet new friends and socialize Dating sites are around 90% more successful."
Ticket4one is gaining pace with the trends of dating sites and social networking all rolled into one. WHY? Because Ticket4one.com's profile approval process is 100% human edited. Weeding out those fake profiles.
Feel free to leave your comment and let us know your thoughts on the subject
Labels: dating, dating site, networking, online dating, social, social networking
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
What Users Say are the best tips for Dating
We Recently asked users what they thought were the best dating tips they knew and the response was great.
This is the top ten list of tips (not in any specific order)
#1 by crkian
I haven't been out dating for so long.
Be yourself is a must though
#2 by gmoney
radical honesty. Be honest at all expenses.... if she can handle real honesty (not brutal honesty) but radical honesty then it will be all good. To many people send out a representative of themselves out on a date. This means they are not their real self. Be you and practice radical honesty!!!
#3 by acousticguitarist
don't try and be over amorous on the first date
#4 by rileycentral
Do something you both are relaxed and make sure if its an early date that you meet somewhere. It sucks when you feel like you are trapped and can't leave. This is going way back for me though, I got married in 2002
#5 by wozog
Here is my first advice. When your on the date you will probably go to a shopping area, just to look around. Keep your ears open and see if she is interested in anything. For example, you see her pick up a perfume and tries it on and she likes it. Remember which one she liked. After you go somewhere else, tell her you have to go to the bathroom. Run to the store and buy it. Now this is the hard part. All woman have purses. They love their purse and never let it out of their site. You have to somehow put the perfume into her purse. I suggest in the movie theater where it is very dark. After the date is over. She will go home and maybe that night or the next day she will find that wonderful surprise. She will HAVE to give you a call. That gift got you, a second call, showed your not cheap, showed your romantic, and most likely got you a second date. You know she will tell her girlfriends and her girlfriends will LOVE you which is another plus. Doing this will not make you look creepy, it works! Woman love this kind of stuff.
#6 by Kiwipulse
Don't try to make your partner drunk..
#7 by Anok
Hmmm, From a gal's perspective as to what we want on a date....
I haven't dated in some time now....but.....let's see. Don't puke on her shoes (I think it's relatively OK for a gal to puke on his shoes, but like I said, it's been a while), and, what else...
Oh yeah, there will be no giving of the Christmas "goose" early, got it? Chicks don't dig that.
Other than that, let the gal go into the mosh pit first, giver first crack at the bastard who did goose her (then thoroughly pummel him, thats chivalry), let her buy her own beers....and don't piss off anyone in her circle of friends. They are likely to be larger and meaner than you.
Yup, thats about it.
#8 by kdawg68
don't go out with a loaded weapon.
#9 by kdawg68
Well, I think I've learned today that no matter how tempting it is, you should probably avoid dressing up like Lion-O of the Thundercats if you are trying to impress a woman on a date.
(sorry folks but this next one was just too funny not to add)
#10 by aningeniousname
1/When on a date be interested in her and try not to go on about your wife.
2/Never pay for the date as women find his offensive.
3/Tell her before the date starts the level of intimacy she will be allowed to achieve afterwards, this should stop any embarrassing moments.
4/Women enjoy football immensely so try to steer the conversation towards this topic she will be impressed by our thoughtfulness.
5/Don't bother dressing up for your date, women like a project and she will see your lack of style and basic hygiene as an interesting challenge
This is the top ten list of tips (not in any specific order)
#1 by crkian
I haven't been out dating for so long.
Be yourself is a must though
#2 by gmoney
radical honesty. Be honest at all expenses.... if she can handle real honesty (not brutal honesty) but radical honesty then it will be all good. To many people send out a representative of themselves out on a date. This means they are not their real self. Be you and practice radical honesty!!!
#3 by acousticguitarist
don't try and be over amorous on the first date
#4 by rileycentral
Do something you both are relaxed and make sure if its an early date that you meet somewhere. It sucks when you feel like you are trapped and can't leave. This is going way back for me though, I got married in 2002
#5 by wozog
Here is my first advice. When your on the date you will probably go to a shopping area, just to look around. Keep your ears open and see if she is interested in anything. For example, you see her pick up a perfume and tries it on and she likes it. Remember which one she liked. After you go somewhere else, tell her you have to go to the bathroom. Run to the store and buy it. Now this is the hard part. All woman have purses. They love their purse and never let it out of their site. You have to somehow put the perfume into her purse. I suggest in the movie theater where it is very dark. After the date is over. She will go home and maybe that night or the next day she will find that wonderful surprise. She will HAVE to give you a call. That gift got you, a second call, showed your not cheap, showed your romantic, and most likely got you a second date. You know she will tell her girlfriends and her girlfriends will LOVE you which is another plus. Doing this will not make you look creepy, it works! Woman love this kind of stuff.
#6 by Kiwipulse
Don't try to make your partner drunk..
#7 by Anok
Hmmm, From a gal's perspective as to what we want on a date....
I haven't dated in some time now....but.....let's see. Don't puke on her shoes (I think it's relatively OK for a gal to puke on his shoes, but like I said, it's been a while), and, what else...
Oh yeah, there will be no giving of the Christmas "goose" early, got it? Chicks don't dig that.
Other than that, let the gal go into the mosh pit first, giver first crack at the bastard who did goose her (then thoroughly pummel him, thats chivalry), let her buy her own beers....and don't piss off anyone in her circle of friends. They are likely to be larger and meaner than you.
Yup, thats about it.
#8 by kdawg68
don't go out with a loaded weapon.
#9 by kdawg68
Well, I think I've learned today that no matter how tempting it is, you should probably avoid dressing up like Lion-O of the Thundercats if you are trying to impress a woman on a date.
(sorry folks but this next one was just too funny not to add)
#10 by aningeniousname
1/When on a date be interested in her and try not to go on about your wife.
2/Never pay for the date as women find his offensive.
3/Tell her before the date starts the level of intimacy she will be allowed to achieve afterwards, this should stop any embarrassing moments.
4/Women enjoy football immensely so try to steer the conversation towards this topic she will be impressed by our thoughtfulness.
5/Don't bother dressing up for your date, women like a project and she will see your lack of style and basic hygiene as an interesting challenge
Labels: advice, best, dating, dating blog, online dating, tips
Friday, January 18, 2008
Online Dating Women to Men Ratios
One of the facts of online dating is that there are more men than women online. For example, Match.com recently told ABC News that 59% of their subscribers are men and 41% are women. However Ticket4one.com Has also released that they have atleast 70% women and 30% men
The high male/female ratio of online dating is not the fault of the online dating services, but it reflects the unfortunate realities of the real world. Over a decade ago I recall reading a New York Times article that stated that there were approximately 6 single men in their twenties for every five single women.
How is this possible? Aren't there an approximately equal number of boy and girl babies born each year? The biggest contributor to the skewed ratio is serial polygamy. A man in his twenties marries a woman in her twenties, then in his thirties he divorces her and marries another woman in her twenties, then in his forties he marries another women in her twenties. This happens. I have a friend who's in his fifties and his current wife is in her twenties.
There is also parallel polygamy. I woman I know, when she was in her twenties, knew a guy who had two girlfriends at the same time (neither, of course, knew of the other one's existence). And at the same time he was also hitting on her, trying to bring his harem up to three!
What's going on in the real world is reflected in the virtual world of online dating. In fact, it's skewed worse than in the real world, because online dating sites attract a much greater percentage of people who have trouble finding dates. So not only will there be more men, there will be more undesirable (for whatever reasons) members of both sexes.
Men who use online dating services will initially try to contact the few women they are interested in. But because the desirable women receive more emails than they can respond to, male subscribers eventually figure out that they have to send out massive numbers of emails because the response rate is so low. So we wind up in the situation we're in now. Female subscribers to online dating services receive more emails than they can respond to, and male subscribers send out large numbers of emails and rarely get a response.
Women actually complain about this, but I think they are in a far better situation than men. If you are a man, how do you fix the problem? The answer is that you need to move to Manhattan. There are more single women in Manhattan than men. If you do searches in Ticket4one.com for Manhattan, you will find about 50% more female profiles than male profiles. The opposite of the ratio for the rest of the United States.
Living in Manhattan and using Ticket4one.com, I've been quite happy with how many women respond to my emails. And being a nerdy IT professional, I'm not a high priority catch for most women. They'd rather be going out with the good looking athletic men. You also get to meet women of a caliber you'd never find in Phoenix, Arizona, like graduates of Harvard and Yale law schools.
The high male/female ratio of online dating is not the fault of the online dating services, but it reflects the unfortunate realities of the real world. Over a decade ago I recall reading a New York Times article that stated that there were approximately 6 single men in their twenties for every five single women.
How is this possible? Aren't there an approximately equal number of boy and girl babies born each year? The biggest contributor to the skewed ratio is serial polygamy. A man in his twenties marries a woman in her twenties, then in his thirties he divorces her and marries another woman in her twenties, then in his forties he marries another women in her twenties. This happens. I have a friend who's in his fifties and his current wife is in her twenties.
There is also parallel polygamy. I woman I know, when she was in her twenties, knew a guy who had two girlfriends at the same time (neither, of course, knew of the other one's existence). And at the same time he was also hitting on her, trying to bring his harem up to three!
What's going on in the real world is reflected in the virtual world of online dating. In fact, it's skewed worse than in the real world, because online dating sites attract a much greater percentage of people who have trouble finding dates. So not only will there be more men, there will be more undesirable (for whatever reasons) members of both sexes.
Men who use online dating services will initially try to contact the few women they are interested in. But because the desirable women receive more emails than they can respond to, male subscribers eventually figure out that they have to send out massive numbers of emails because the response rate is so low. So we wind up in the situation we're in now. Female subscribers to online dating services receive more emails than they can respond to, and male subscribers send out large numbers of emails and rarely get a response.
Women actually complain about this, but I think they are in a far better situation than men. If you are a man, how do you fix the problem? The answer is that you need to move to Manhattan. There are more single women in Manhattan than men. If you do searches in Ticket4one.com for Manhattan, you will find about 50% more female profiles than male profiles. The opposite of the ratio for the rest of the United States.
Living in Manhattan and using Ticket4one.com, I've been quite happy with how many women respond to my emails. And being a nerdy IT professional, I'm not a high priority catch for most women. They'd rather be going out with the good looking athletic men. You also get to meet women of a caliber you'd never find in Phoenix, Arizona, like graduates of Harvard and Yale law schools.
Labels: dating, european women, men, online dating, ratio
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Online Dating is B.S
It's true. With 80 million people searching for love online the chances of actually finding someone worth dating are 1 in 100 million.
Approx 70% of all visitors are already married and just looking for a bit of side action.
Another 20% are either scammers or not what their pictures say they are.
Through in a few idiots and time wasters and what are you left with? A VERY SMALL AMOUNT OF REAL ONLINE DATING ENTHUSIASTS.
So how are you going to find them? Most of our articles will show you some tips on how to avoid the wrong types of people but now I am going to show you a very quick way to attract the right ones.
Most sites now are allowing you to have a friends list. And this is one of the major sources of keeping it real. Start adding people to your friends list and keep doing it. Accept invites as well. The majority of people on a dating site will find your profile easier if your in someone’s friends list.
Everyone wants a huge friends list but only genuine singles write proper emails and comments. Avoid the profiles that send you picture comments repetitively and nothing else. They are just creating links for one of their own websites.
REMEBER REAL PEOPLE SEND REAL MESSAGES
Start your friends list right now and watch as the amount of new people visit your profile immediately.
Approx 70% of all visitors are already married and just looking for a bit of side action.
Another 20% are either scammers or not what their pictures say they are.
Through in a few idiots and time wasters and what are you left with? A VERY SMALL AMOUNT OF REAL ONLINE DATING ENTHUSIASTS.
So how are you going to find them? Most of our articles will show you some tips on how to avoid the wrong types of people but now I am going to show you a very quick way to attract the right ones.
Most sites now are allowing you to have a friends list. And this is one of the major sources of keeping it real. Start adding people to your friends list and keep doing it. Accept invites as well. The majority of people on a dating site will find your profile easier if your in someone’s friends list.
Everyone wants a huge friends list but only genuine singles write proper emails and comments. Avoid the profiles that send you picture comments repetitively and nothing else. They are just creating links for one of their own websites.
REMEBER REAL PEOPLE SEND REAL MESSAGES
Start your friends list right now and watch as the amount of new people visit your profile immediately.
Labels: bs, dating site, friends, online, online dating, statistics
