Dating Blog List of Online dating Tips and advice
Monday, June 16, 2008
WHAT YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE
A lot of our members are always asking what the should know about someone before they meet offline. So we have prepared a top ten list to help you all out.
1) The person’s real name
2) Whether the person lives on his/her own or with others or even still lives with mum and dad
3) Something about the person’s “roots” to get a sense of where they came from
4) How the person makes a living
5) The person’s personal values
6) What the person does for fun – his/her leisure preferences and energy level
7) The degree to which the person uses any legal or illicit substances
8) What the person is currently seeking in a relationship (causal, serious or up for grabs)
9) The person’s criminal history, if any
10) Whether the person has any children and how many
1) The person’s real name
2) Whether the person lives on his/her own or with others or even still lives with mum and dad
3) Something about the person’s “roots” to get a sense of where they came from
4) How the person makes a living
5) The person’s personal values
6) What the person does for fun – his/her leisure preferences and energy level
7) The degree to which the person uses any legal or illicit substances
8) What the person is currently seeking in a relationship (causal, serious or up for grabs)
9) The person’s criminal history, if any
10) Whether the person has any children and how many
Labels: dating, do's and don'ts, online dating, potential date, safety, tips, trying online dating
Monday, April 07, 2008
Better ONline Dating Communication
If your looking to find true love online, there are numerous aspects of online dating you need to know and understand first. Below are a few things to know before you delve into online dating:
Tips For Building Your Online Dating Profile
Tip #1
Improve Your Matches by Being Clear About what your looking for
The first step in increasing others interests in you is to be clear about what you are looking for and write that into your profile.
Be clear in your profile about what you are looking for in order to weed out others. If you only want to date local men who are within 3 years of your age then you should clearly state:
I'm interested only in communicating with 22-28 year old men who live within 20 miles of Phoenix, Arizona."
Tip #2:
Use the Subject Header as a Filter
If you cant think of anything to say in your profile header then use it as a filter like:
interested only in 22-28 year old men
Tip #3:
State What Action You Want Interested People to Take
There are so many options to take when contacting a member of the opposite sex online eg. kisses ,IM ,emails etc. So be specific about the type of action you will respond to. like..
"If you're interested in communicating, send me a kiss and I'll send an email your way."
When Communicating Via Email or Chat
Tip #4:
Be Respectful
It's amazing what people will say to each other when they feel protected from harm behind a computer screen.
When you're communicating with someone via email or chat keep in mind that there is a real person on the other end with real feelings. Be respectful with the words you use.
In addition, if you are no longer interested in communicating with the person, don't just "fall off the face of the earth". Send them a short and respectful note that you are pursuing some other matches and wish them the best of luck. It is the respectable thing to do.
Tip #5:
For Conversation Ideas, Closely Reread the Person's Profile
One of the keys to good communication is talking about something that interests the other person. You can get amazing clues to their interests by carefully rereading every aspect of that person's profile and by closely analyzing the background of any pictures they have posted.
For example, if someone says in their profile "I love to travel" then that is your cue to ask questions like "what's the most fascinating place you've ever traveled to?"
By showing an interest in the other person's interests you are improving the communication that the two of you share
Tips For Building Your Online Dating Profile
Tip #1
Improve Your Matches by Being Clear About what your looking for
The first step in increasing others interests in you is to be clear about what you are looking for and write that into your profile.
Be clear in your profile about what you are looking for in order to weed out others. If you only want to date local men who are within 3 years of your age then you should clearly state:
I'm interested only in communicating with 22-28 year old men who live within 20 miles of Phoenix, Arizona."
Tip #2:
Use the Subject Header as a Filter
If you cant think of anything to say in your profile header then use it as a filter like:
interested only in 22-28 year old men
Tip #3:
State What Action You Want Interested People to Take
There are so many options to take when contacting a member of the opposite sex online eg. kisses ,IM ,emails etc. So be specific about the type of action you will respond to. like..
"If you're interested in communicating, send me a kiss and I'll send an email your way."
When Communicating Via Email or Chat
Tip #4:
Be Respectful
It's amazing what people will say to each other when they feel protected from harm behind a computer screen.
When you're communicating with someone via email or chat keep in mind that there is a real person on the other end with real feelings. Be respectful with the words you use.
In addition, if you are no longer interested in communicating with the person, don't just "fall off the face of the earth". Send them a short and respectful note that you are pursuing some other matches and wish them the best of luck. It is the respectable thing to do.
Tip #5:
For Conversation Ideas, Closely Reread the Person's Profile
One of the keys to good communication is talking about something that interests the other person. You can get amazing clues to their interests by carefully rereading every aspect of that person's profile and by closely analyzing the background of any pictures they have posted.
For example, if someone says in their profile "I love to travel" then that is your cue to ask questions like "what's the most fascinating place you've ever traveled to?"
By showing an interest in the other person's interests you are improving the communication that the two of you share
Labels: do's and don'ts, online, online dating, s, trying online dating
Tuesday, January 01, 2008
Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid
While you search the internet for that special lady…the one of your dreams…your soul-mate... the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right. Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong... things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart.
Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive... maybe even, scary.
Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key.
Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another... and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.
Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine. It won’t happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.
Little white lies and false fronts won’t work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Make it interesting but don’t make false statements.
The truth will come out eventually anyway. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Remember, don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.
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Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive... maybe even, scary.
Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key.
Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another... and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.
Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine. It won’t happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.
Little white lies and false fronts won’t work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Make it interesting but don’t make false statements.
The truth will come out eventually anyway. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Remember, don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.
feel free to leave a comment on this article!
Labels: dating, dating blog, do's and don'ts, mistakes, online dating, potential date
Thursday, May 04, 2006
Online Dating profile do's and don'ts
Online Dating profile: Do's and Don'ts: Creating a great profile means selling your greatest strengths and attributes. Like creating your personal resume. Most reputable online dating sites provide a multiple choice matching as well as a brief description of yourself and what you are looking for. After someone finds his or her "match", it is your description of yourself that makes you shine. So take your time and fill in your description completely, Two to three sentences are considered perfect. You can always come back to your description later to update it People who don't fill out their descriptions properly are not taken seriously and often get passed on for other profiles that look more genuine. Be honest in your ad. Describe yourself accurately and most important honestly in your online dating profile. Include real data like your height, body type, weight and educational background. Show your personality. Talk about hobbies, activities you enjoy, movies, interests, books, or music you enjoy, do you like to travel, (don't disclose your place of employment.... keep it general: I am a nurse, an accountant, etc). Don't give away too much information...just write enough to spark an interested. Leave something to talk about later. Share your thoughts, you don't have to just write facts. Nobody wants to read a profile that's all touchy-feely, Keep your profile alive. Write as if you're talking to your best friend. We want to know more about the Real you like where you're from, what you want from life, what makes you laugh, what you love about life. DON'T focus on only one part of your life: You may love dogs, love to ski, those are great things to mention in your profile. Say something about you, add your personality and humour into what people are reading. Don't try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are. Believe in yourself and the fact that you are worthy of that someone special.Keep it all Positive Don't dwell on your problems and limitations. Now is not the time to be talking about why you got divorced, or problems at work. Those are things that you can mention, you can talk about these things once you have gotten to know someoneWhat you are looking for: Keep your options broad. If you write you are looking for the love of your life and nothing less then there is a good chance your going to scare potential candidates away before even talking to them. Remember the majority of relationships you have been in have started from being friends first and then something developed from that so treat your online dating profile the same. Words to Use and Avoid with you online dating profile: Good Words: Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman. Words to Avoid: Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, fuck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. If these words want work for you in real life what makes you think they will work online for you. At the end of the day the people your talking to online are the exact same as those you walk past in the streets.http://www.ticket4one.com
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