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Friday, January 18, 2008
Online Dating Women to Men Ratios
One of the facts of online dating is that there are more men than women online. For example, Match.com recently told ABC News that 59% of their subscribers are men and 41% are women. However Ticket4one.com Has also released that they have atleast 70% women and 30% men
The high male/female ratio of online dating is not the fault of the online dating services, but it reflects the unfortunate realities of the real world. Over a decade ago I recall reading a New York Times article that stated that there were approximately 6 single men in their twenties for every five single women.
How is this possible? Aren't there an approximately equal number of boy and girl babies born each year? The biggest contributor to the skewed ratio is serial polygamy. A man in his twenties marries a woman in her twenties, then in his thirties he divorces her and marries another woman in her twenties, then in his forties he marries another women in her twenties. This happens. I have a friend who's in his fifties and his current wife is in her twenties.
There is also parallel polygamy. I woman I know, when she was in her twenties, knew a guy who had two girlfriends at the same time (neither, of course, knew of the other one's existence). And at the same time he was also hitting on her, trying to bring his harem up to three!
What's going on in the real world is reflected in the virtual world of online dating. In fact, it's skewed worse than in the real world, because online dating sites attract a much greater percentage of people who have trouble finding dates. So not only will there be more men, there will be more undesirable (for whatever reasons) members of both sexes.
Men who use online dating services will initially try to contact the few women they are interested in. But because the desirable women receive more emails than they can respond to, male subscribers eventually figure out that they have to send out massive numbers of emails because the response rate is so low. So we wind up in the situation we're in now. Female subscribers to online dating services receive more emails than they can respond to, and male subscribers send out large numbers of emails and rarely get a response.
Women actually complain about this, but I think they are in a far better situation than men. If you are a man, how do you fix the problem? The answer is that you need to move to Manhattan. There are more single women in Manhattan than men. If you do searches in Ticket4one.com for Manhattan, you will find about 50% more female profiles than male profiles. The opposite of the ratio for the rest of the United States.
Living in Manhattan and using Ticket4one.com, I've been quite happy with how many women respond to my emails. And being a nerdy IT professional, I'm not a high priority catch for most women. They'd rather be going out with the good looking athletic men. You also get to meet women of a caliber you'd never find in Phoenix, Arizona, like graduates of Harvard and Yale law schools.
The high male/female ratio of online dating is not the fault of the online dating services, but it reflects the unfortunate realities of the real world. Over a decade ago I recall reading a New York Times article that stated that there were approximately 6 single men in their twenties for every five single women.
How is this possible? Aren't there an approximately equal number of boy and girl babies born each year? The biggest contributor to the skewed ratio is serial polygamy. A man in his twenties marries a woman in her twenties, then in his thirties he divorces her and marries another woman in her twenties, then in his forties he marries another women in her twenties. This happens. I have a friend who's in his fifties and his current wife is in her twenties.
There is also parallel polygamy. I woman I know, when she was in her twenties, knew a guy who had two girlfriends at the same time (neither, of course, knew of the other one's existence). And at the same time he was also hitting on her, trying to bring his harem up to three!
What's going on in the real world is reflected in the virtual world of online dating. In fact, it's skewed worse than in the real world, because online dating sites attract a much greater percentage of people who have trouble finding dates. So not only will there be more men, there will be more undesirable (for whatever reasons) members of both sexes.
Men who use online dating services will initially try to contact the few women they are interested in. But because the desirable women receive more emails than they can respond to, male subscribers eventually figure out that they have to send out massive numbers of emails because the response rate is so low. So we wind up in the situation we're in now. Female subscribers to online dating services receive more emails than they can respond to, and male subscribers send out large numbers of emails and rarely get a response.
Women actually complain about this, but I think they are in a far better situation than men. If you are a man, how do you fix the problem? The answer is that you need to move to Manhattan. There are more single women in Manhattan than men. If you do searches in Ticket4one.com for Manhattan, you will find about 50% more female profiles than male profiles. The opposite of the ratio for the rest of the United States.
Living in Manhattan and using Ticket4one.com, I've been quite happy with how many women respond to my emails. And being a nerdy IT professional, I'm not a high priority catch for most women. They'd rather be going out with the good looking athletic men. You also get to meet women of a caliber you'd never find in Phoenix, Arizona, like graduates of Harvard and Yale law schools.
Labels: dating, european women, men, online dating, ratio
Friday, January 04, 2008
Online Dating | Minimize Your Risk Factors
As you probably accept by now, Online Dating is an efficient and fun way to meet new and interesting people. However, Online Dating can be risky business and you need to protect yourself.
Most people you meet on line are exactly who they say they are but there are the perverts and sexual predators so you should use some good judgment while getting to know the stranger you have just met.
Risk Management #1:
Don’t Give Out Any Personal Information until You Have Gotten to Know the Person.
Never give your real name, address or phone number until you are sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are. Perverts, sexual predators and just plain garden variety weirdoes come in both sexes, all ages and in all shapes and sizes.
It’s truly better to be safe than sorry.
Risk Management #2:
Take Your Time Getting to Know the Other Person.
You will see a picture sooner or later of him or her. Don’t be fooled by outward appearances. The real person is the one you need to get to know.
Honest and faithful are qualities that will last but beautiful and handsome will fade with time. You don’t have to spend 24/7 with a person to find out who they are. You do need to listen to what he or she is saying carefully.
Once you think you know this person well enough to exchange personal information, don’t stop there. The Internet is a wonderful place where you can learn just about anything and everything about anybody and in just a few minutes.
Risk Management #3:
Do your Homework!
Check them out. There is an old saying among journalists. “Your mother says she loves you but check it out.” That is good advice for Online Dating and for “real world” dating too. Don’t take everything the other person tells you at face value.
Most people you meet on line are exactly who they say they are but there are the perverts and sexual predators so you should use some good judgment while getting to know the stranger you have just met.
Risk Management #1:
Don’t Give Out Any Personal Information until You Have Gotten to Know the Person.
Never give your real name, address or phone number until you are sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are. Perverts, sexual predators and just plain garden variety weirdoes come in both sexes, all ages and in all shapes and sizes.
It’s truly better to be safe than sorry.
Risk Management #2:
Take Your Time Getting to Know the Other Person.
You will see a picture sooner or later of him or her. Don’t be fooled by outward appearances. The real person is the one you need to get to know.
Honest and faithful are qualities that will last but beautiful and handsome will fade with time. You don’t have to spend 24/7 with a person to find out who they are. You do need to listen to what he or she is saying carefully.
Once you think you know this person well enough to exchange personal information, don’t stop there. The Internet is a wonderful place where you can learn just about anything and everything about anybody and in just a few minutes.
Risk Management #3:
Do your Homework!
Check them out. There is an old saying among journalists. “Your mother says she loves you but check it out.” That is good advice for Online Dating and for “real world” dating too. Don’t take everything the other person tells you at face value.
Labels: dating, men, online, online dating, security, single, women
Sunday, January 07, 2007
Online Dating Safety For Men
Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well.
Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too.
It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers.
The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it.
You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit.
Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment.
Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.
Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.
If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware.
If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.
A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.
Until then....
Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too.
It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers.
The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it.
You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit.
Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment.
Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.
Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.
If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware.
If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.
A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.
Until then....
Labels: dating blog, men, online, online dating, online dating safety for men
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Online Dating is NOT a Contest!
Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school.
You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask?
That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident... NOT an arrogant jerk.
There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.
They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.
They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said.
They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy.
They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.
You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask?
That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident... NOT an arrogant jerk.
There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.
They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.
They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said.
They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy.
They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.
Labels: dating, dating blog, men, online dating, women
Sunday, December 03, 2006
Online Dating for Single Men
No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want.
If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.
The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.
The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc.
You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.
The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself.
Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.
You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you.
New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.
Until the next time!
If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.
The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.
The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc.
You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.
The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself.
Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.
You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you.
New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.
Until the next time!
Labels: dating blog, men, online, online dating, single, single men
