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Friday, January 04, 2008
Online Dating | Minimize Your Risk Factors
As you probably accept by now, Online Dating is an efficient and fun way to meet new and interesting people. However, Online Dating can be risky business and you need to protect yourself.
Most people you meet on line are exactly who they say they are but there are the perverts and sexual predators so you should use some good judgment while getting to know the stranger you have just met.
Risk Management #1:
Don’t Give Out Any Personal Information until You Have Gotten to Know the Person.
Never give your real name, address or phone number until you are sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are. Perverts, sexual predators and just plain garden variety weirdoes come in both sexes, all ages and in all shapes and sizes.
It’s truly better to be safe than sorry.
Risk Management #2:
Take Your Time Getting to Know the Other Person.
You will see a picture sooner or later of him or her. Don’t be fooled by outward appearances. The real person is the one you need to get to know.
Honest and faithful are qualities that will last but beautiful and handsome will fade with time. You don’t have to spend 24/7 with a person to find out who they are. You do need to listen to what he or she is saying carefully.
Once you think you know this person well enough to exchange personal information, don’t stop there. The Internet is a wonderful place where you can learn just about anything and everything about anybody and in just a few minutes.
Risk Management #3:
Do your Homework!
Check them out. There is an old saying among journalists. “Your mother says she loves you but check it out.” That is good advice for Online Dating and for “real world” dating too. Don’t take everything the other person tells you at face value.
Most people you meet on line are exactly who they say they are but there are the perverts and sexual predators so you should use some good judgment while getting to know the stranger you have just met.
Risk Management #1:
Don’t Give Out Any Personal Information until You Have Gotten to Know the Person.
Never give your real name, address or phone number until you are sure the person you are talking to is who they say they are. Perverts, sexual predators and just plain garden variety weirdoes come in both sexes, all ages and in all shapes and sizes.
It’s truly better to be safe than sorry.
Risk Management #2:
Take Your Time Getting to Know the Other Person.
You will see a picture sooner or later of him or her. Don’t be fooled by outward appearances. The real person is the one you need to get to know.
Honest and faithful are qualities that will last but beautiful and handsome will fade with time. You don’t have to spend 24/7 with a person to find out who they are. You do need to listen to what he or she is saying carefully.
Once you think you know this person well enough to exchange personal information, don’t stop there. The Internet is a wonderful place where you can learn just about anything and everything about anybody and in just a few minutes.
Risk Management #3:
Do your Homework!
Check them out. There is an old saying among journalists. “Your mother says she loves you but check it out.” That is good advice for Online Dating and for “real world” dating too. Don’t take everything the other person tells you at face value.
Labels: dating, men, online, online dating, security, single, women
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Online Dating is NOT a Contest!
Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school.
You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask?
That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident... NOT an arrogant jerk.
There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.
They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.
They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said.
They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy.
They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.
You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask?
That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident... NOT an arrogant jerk.
There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.
They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.
They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said.
They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy.
They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.
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